by the Lazy Buddhist

This question has come up twice recently, and it is something that many of us are struggling with. Firstly, in a question and answer session with Dónal, and then in an article Gelong Thubten wrote on Lama Yeshe Rinpoche’s recent visit to some of the UK Samye Dzongs.

The gist of both questions is that many of us are struggling to meet situations and keep our balance in a world where we are overwhelmed by the horrors of war, natural disasters and violence. Both Lama Rinpoche and Dónal reminded us to have a sense of our own life and Dharma as we navigate this.

Lama Rinpoche answered that one must become a beacon of light, and to spread that light to others. Dónal suggested we notice what our mind does, and what our thoughts do with the news we see and hear. He reminded us to appreciate the small moments of beauty and connection, that are also reality, and happen in our day. These moments of sacredness are so valuable and shape how we move through the world. And the world desperately needs more loving, peaceful people.

Then, hold on to your hats, my thoughts got hold of the question and it is quite a ride! I started mulling over what takes place in me when someone or something upsets me. Not war-torn-country level of upset, but here in my day when someone I love says something that hurts my feelings, or even seeing rubbish dumped on the side of the road can do it.

As I delved into what actually takes place inside my thoughts, I saw how even in simply wanting to have my say, there is a sense of satisfaction and dare I say, pleasure, from seeing that I had hurt the person who hurt me. It’s subtle but there it was, hidden and couched in all sorts of righteous indignation and people should know better terminology.

Over the last few weeks, I have been paying attention to the tiny ways I harm others in my thoughts, words and actions. While we are unable to change the world, we have Dharma to guide us in changing ourselves and bringing meaning to our lives. These precious teaching and precious teachers show us how to contribute to the peace of the world, but ultimately, it is up to each of us to bring more loving kindness into our daily lives.

Till next time,

Tania Potter

September 2024